Personal Growth is the learning-process behind every painful experience.
It’s what happens as we take time to make sense of inner feelings, define clear personal goals, and channel perceived emotions into positive action.
This personal development process is initiated by the accumulation of knowledge through classic information channels (books, articles, videos, talks), and the application of that knowledge to our lives.
If growth in business is the application of knowledge to the task at hand, then personal growth is the application of knowledge to the life at hand.
It’s an intimate process that, if done well, can form the basis of your well-being moving forward.
I really believe that you can choose to put your own happiness first, still manage to make others happy, and that the reward for investing in yourself in that way is a healthier sense of self-confidence that inevitably drives healthier relationships with others.
I’m someone who’s been looking for ways to create healthier relationships with the people in my life.
When I started this blog I was just entering a new phase: Being away from home for the first time, finding myself at a cross-roads career-wise, having to develop a sense of identity, finding the motivation to achieve goals that I had, having to really bounce-back from a serious romantic attachment also, and just generally having to deal with what seemed like enormous pressures for me at the time.
By no means have I had the kind of troubled existence that inspires epic movies or tragic novels, but as most of us I have learned a few valuable lessons along my (short) way.
Me I just decided I would turn them into articles and ship them through the internet to people who don’t have them and happen to really need them too.
I figure I had to learn to learn certain things the hard way so someone out there wouldn’t have to.
And I’ve learned a lot from people I coach and get coaching from as well.
So yeah, I can say that I feel better than I ever have because of the stuff that you’ll see on this website.
The information, the frame-works, the mindsets, the attitude shifts, all of it geared towards helping you become someone who’s happy, driven, and deliberate in their actions.
And not someone who constantly feels stuck, low, and pulled in every direction but the right one.
It’s tough when you feel like things are just “happening” in your life.
Taking the time to look for your sun, reflect on exactly what you want, and exactly how you’re going to get it.
Sounds obvious, but hey. Common sense isn’t that common right. I myself am a very “go with the flow” type of person, and if you’re anything like me, the last thing you want to do in this fast-paced world we live in is to stop everything you’re doing and sit down on your bed twiddling your thumbs in contemplation for hours at a time.
And that’s exactly what I did for like a while (about 4 months) before I decided it was time for me to get help from somebody who could understand how I was feeling.
At the time I did the odd thing and visited a Reiki master, and besides the (relaxing) Reiki itself, she suggested I read a book:
“The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle.
It was an amazing read for me, and I have read this book many times since. It’s definitely more on the spiritual side of the knowledge spectrum, but value is value, and I did get a lot of value from it.
And sure I might just have been more “open” to that kind of insight at the time, but it did help me see that worrying in itself is a pretty inert way to deal with your problems.
I mean how many of us wake up, and just worry, all day. From the moment we wake, to the moment we sleep. Just looping over and over, thinking about this or that other impeding doom scenario and never really taking any action.
Now don’t get me wrong, of course I still worry about things, but at least now I always try to follow it up (or preface it) with some type of action that can put my worries to rest.
Taking new actions. That’s being proactive about your happiness.
“The proactive approach to a mistake is to acknowledge it instantly, correct and learn from it. This literally turns a failure into a success.” -Stephen Covey
This book gave me the kick in the butt I needed at the time. I started writing more purposefully, and reading many more books. I probably went from 1 book/year to what today comes awfully close to 1 book/week.
So at 52 books a year, as I’m approaching the 3-year mark of this venture.. I realize that’s a small stack of books. And it makes me even happier to share what they’ve taught me, and hopefully make a positive impact that way.
“You cannot change your destination overnight but your can change your direction over night. If you want to reach your goals and fulfill your potential, become intentional about your personal growth. It will change your life.” -Jim Rohn
Being proactive about your happiness works.
As a Coach by profession, my role is to facilitate the accomplishment of your goals. I focus on asking the questions that enable clarity in your mind. It could be a matter of having a strategic approach to your problem. Or finding ways to sustain your motivation through hard moments. Whatever your needs may be at this time.
It’s true that some people just wish for things to be different. But see these people don’t get what they wish for because wishful thinking does not work.
“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” -Tony Robbins
You might be someone who’s concerned with creating healthy relationships. Maybe you’re used to having complicated rapport with people. Or you have a special someone you’d like to show up at your absolute best for. Or perhaps you’re simply curious about what you could possibly find exciting in life.
Then I’m here to tell you there’s a way to find out. And it starts with you making a conscious choice to explore that aspect of what it means to be you.
Whatever your needs may be at this point in time, I welcome and salute you. 🙂