It was very enlightening for me to read about the heart of conflict in The Anatomy of Peace by the Harbinger Institute. It really is a game-changer for relationships, and I just wanted to share some key insights from it about conflict and how to deal with it at the roots, and not at the leaves. I also remember reading somewhere that war weakens both parties, and that if we don’t find ways to end war, that war will end us. Hopefully this piece can help you put an end to your wars, so mental energy can be re-dedicated to business matters.
And not just romantic attachment either. That’s rough, but it’s not the only type of relationship that can keep us snagged. Holding on to grudges is way too easy. (Secretly) Blaming someone else for our own shortcomings is way too easy. And it doesn’t hurt the other person. I want to talk about the shift in mindset that must happen for you to forget about these hurts and mentally move yourself on to the work and people you know in your heart are more important. (more…)
You’ve heard the words: “You are what you eat”, “You are what you do”, “Perfection is a lot of little things done well” etc. Little wins consistently earned lead to major victories. Small habits accumulated and executed over time are what really drive the changes we envision in our wishful thoughts. In this bit, I’d like to share with you a piece of information that will change the way you understand habits, and help you begin to see the way forward in your own situation.
I want to discuss the obstacles that lie between you, and the positive changes you’re trying to make in your life. And some strategies on how to overcome them. Because whatever health, wealth, love, or happiness we gain will be won from what we do daily. Success (in life) is almost never the product of an instant. That’s why it’s so important to understand how to master our routines. And when it comes to routines, sometimes mastery = contingency. You’ve got to know what you’re really up against, and how to deal most effectively with the stresses of REAL life.
In part 1 I talked about the most critical piece of information you need to make important life decisions. Today I’d like to take about the smaller decisions of day-to-day life that we don’t necessarily have days or weeks to meditate on. You know, the “Should I” questions with no clear right answer yet not enough time to gather enough information because I’m the spot right now type decisions. I’d say this will help the more indecisive among you because it sets a framework on how to make decisions, that you can apply to pretty much any live situation.
Confidence and Self-Esteem are 2 very similar concepts people often confuse. Having weakness in one or the other is problematic in life, but these 2 capacities are actually built in pretty distinct ways.
In that sense, it’s useful to know the difference, so you can see where your growth areas might be, and make the right kind of effort towards having a more well-rounded life.
Whether it’s your job, or just a hobby, we all know how amazing being good at something feels. It makes you proud, it gives you confidence, and that confidence often spills over in other areas of your life quite naturally. The benefits of greater self-confidence need not be discussed. What I want to share with you today is 3 scientifically proven factors that drastically improve your chances of being successful at what you do.